“Everyone has an assignment. There’s a group of people that you are assigned to, and they will not move until they hear your voice.”
—Kishea Boyd
There comes a moment when the noise fades, and what’s left staring back at you isn’t the woman you’ve been, but the one you were meant to become. It’s not dramatic or picture-perfect. It’s the quiet kind of change that happens when you finally see yourself through truth instead of trauma, and realize the old you no longer fits.
For Kishea, that moment came unexpectedly in front of a mirror. Years of serving, showing up, and shrinking faded as she saw a new reflection staring back. That moment birthed a calling to help women rediscover who they are and walk boldly in their purpose without apology or delay.
In this episode, Kishea shares how that mirror moment changed her life forever, the power of purpose coaching, how hidden seasons refine us, and why dominion starts with seeing yourself clearly.
Episode Highlights:
00:54 The Mirror Moment: Seeing a New Me
04:35 Called to Free Other Women
06:03 The Purpose Coach Who Pushed the Shift
08:00 Stepping Into Leadership and Integrity
13:24 Dominion
16:12 Show Up for Yourself
Resources:
- Coaching Service: https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services
Quotes:
05:41 “We all have an assignment on the earth while we are here.” —Kishea Boyd
09:28 “Everything I do, everything I say, is rooted in knowing who I am in Him, and walking in integrity and just being truthful to myself and allowing God to shape me the way he wanted me to.” —Kishea Boyd
13:40 “D for Dominion— it’s like learning to walk in high heels when you are a flats kind of girl. It feels uncomfortable at first, but it lifts you. That’s what dominion does— it elevates you.” —Kishea Boyd
16:31 “If you’re still not sure, ask Him. He’s not hiding from you. He’s not far off. Talk to him like a loving Father.” —Kishea Boyd
17:20 “Everyone has an assignment. There’s a group of people that you are assigned to, and they will not move until they hear your voice.” —Kishea Boyd
Kishea Boyd is a woman whose journey began not with triumph, but with a search—for identity, purpose, and the heart of God in every season. After serving over 20 years in the U.S. Coast Guard, where she honed resilience and leadership, she found her true strength not in uniform, but in faith. Rededicating her life to Christ in 1999 marked a turning point, leading her into ministry, mentorship, and a deeper understanding of who she was called to be. Through the joys of family life with her husband, Quinton, and their son, Kameron, and through the challenges that shaped her, Kishea has learned that God’s love never lets go. Today, she lives to help others rediscover identity, healing, and purpose through Him.
Transcipt:
Hey, sis, I see you. The strong one, the faithful one. The woman who keeps showing up for everyone else while quietly wondering if anyone still sees her. You can breathe now. You’re safe here.
I’m Kishea Boyd, The Identity Midwife. This podcast was created to help you rediscover who you are right in the middle of real life. Here, we talk about faith, healing, identity, and the gentle work of becoming. You don’t have to fix a thing, just lean in. You’ve been located.
Kishea Boyd: Hello, and welcome to Episode 4. Today we’re going to talk about The Mirror Moment. The moment where I realized I was literally a different person. So it was an ordinary day, no angels were singing, no spotlight, just me walking past my mirror. And suddenly I stopped like, wait a minute, whoa. Time didn’t change. I did. I looked into the reflection of the mirror, and it was literally the woman behind the mirror. Did a little dance, she had just been waiting for me to notice her, and I smiled. I said, wow, I like you. I love you. I was looking at her as if I just didn’t recognize her, if that makes sense, and realized she was in me. Because for so long, I had listened to so many different voices saying things about me or putting words over me, or speaking words of death over me. They were not life. They were debilitating. And so when I began to get all of this feedback from my purpose coach, I realized that she was pouring so much truth into me that all the junk was being removed so I just whispered, wow. Just wow.
I was excited that the person I was before was no longer there staring at me. It was an absolute, just a breathtaking moment. Because for years I’d been showing up, going through the motions, serving, working, smiling, yet not really feeling seen. But that moment, that mirror showed me something different, something new. It was like heaven slid a fresh lens over my eyes, where the scales were removed from my eyes. And it wasn’t that the room changed. It was so surreal. It was like time stood still, just me and her, and I felt like I was watching a new creation form in real time. It’s hard to explain, but it was just something that has definitely shifted. And then God reminded me of this memory that I had when my son, who is now 15, was born.
I think he was a few months old. His sister, my oldest daughter was in her room, and she was holding him in her arms. And he was really little, and he kept staring off into the corner behind her, just staring off. And she kept looking at him like, what are you looking at? So she looks around. There’s nothing there, but his eyes would not move from that one spot in the corner of her room. So she looked over again, nothing there. She looked back at his eyes, still staring. She looked again at the corner, nothing. Back in his eyes still locked in and then she said, what are you looking at? And then the Lord allowed her to see what he was seeing. There was a huge angel standing there with his arms crossed. She said, Mommy, I’ll never forget it. He was as tall as the ceiling, and his arms were crossed. He was posted up like, don’t worry, I’m on guard.
And now listen, she is not one of those folks that sees angels every day. She does what any normal person would do. She blinked. She looked back at the wall. She looked back at his eyes, then realized she had this poster on the wall. She couldn’t even see the poster because the angel was standing in front of it. It was so funny. So she looked back again, she came crying out of that room so fast, and we laughed. But whoa, I knew what that meant because that’s exactly what the Lord showed me in that mirror moment. That’s what it felt like. It was like God, or it was God looking through my eyes, but not just at me. He was looking at all the women I’m called to, all the daughters crying out the same way I used to. And if he trusts me to see them, who am I to hide? And so it just unlocked something on the inside of me, because I knew that he was saying, daughter, I’m trusting you with the women that you are called to. We all have an assignment on the earth while we are here. And truth be told, we are only here for a blink of an eye. It’s not even that long.
And when I think about how the Lord is using me in this season to help women rediscover their identity in him and pull them out of hiding to unlock them as well, this scripture hit me. If you look at 1 Samuel 10:6 where it says, “The Spirit of the Lord will come upon you, and you will be changed into a different person.” Listen, that was some change. Now, it was almost like the journey of a butterfly, that’s what it brought to mind. Because when the butterfly is in this cocoon, it’s being squished, it’s being twisted, it’s being dissolved. Everything that was on the inside of it previously is dissolved into nothing, and then it pushes its way out, which is a very painful process. It pushes this way out to a totally different being. It becomes a butterfly. So you go from a caterpillar to this cocoon stage where you’re hidden, and then you just turn out to be this beautiful, magnificent thing.
And again, I go back to the mirror moment because it was such a pivotal moment in my life, and I don’t want to just gloss over it. I want you to really get in here with me and experience what I would experience on that day. It was life changing for me. And when I think about how God strategically placed this Purpose Coach in my life, and as she was pouring into me now, I was still being coached through all of this, through the change, through the shifting. Like I said, she gave up her time and worked with me for four months, almost a year. And when she was working with me, we did different types of assessments. We did journaling, reflections, and I just spent a lot of time in her presence. A lot of time was virtual, but I spent a lot of time with her as she was pouring into me. I learned about my spiritual gifts, my temperament, my values. I didn’t even know half that stuff about myself, and we did this whole values assessment.
I tell you, that thing hit me deep in thought. I had to narrow it down, get the big list to 10, down to five, down to three. And seeing it written out like that, it just made me see me. It made me make sense, if that makes sense. And she kept saying, you’re a leader. You’re a leader. And I kept saying, no, I’m not. But God kept saying, yes, you are. And so I finally had to just shift my perspective, shift how I was thinking. Especially because this beautiful young lady that I was looking at, I had looked at in the mirror like she was not the same person. So obviously, this is the leader that the Lord was refining in that moment. And so finally, I just released myself to say, fine, I’m a leader.
And that being said, I’m always mindful of how I carry myself, and how I present myself to the public. Because not only am I representing Kishea Boyd that I did in midwife, I even represent my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. So everything I do, everything I say is rooted in knowing who I am in Him, and walking in integrity, and just being truthful to myself, and allowing God to shape me the way he wanted me to, to mold me the way he wanted me to. Because he was not only thinking of me, he was thinking about all the other women that I will touch, and will reach for the glory of God. And then he just started proving it. My prayer life shifted. I was getting up early, like 3:00 o’clock in the morning. Sometimes, I overslept, but it was normally somewhere between 3:00 and 5:00 in the morning.
Now listen, I’m not really a morning person, so let’s say it took me a minute to get it together. But the Lord would nudge me, and I knew he wanted to meet with me, and he wanted to sit with me. I started developing this personal relationship with God. No religion, nothing about church. Like I am the church so I knew that the Lord really wanted to get me on this level with him. Remember that he says, we are seated in heavenly places. I had to come up from this worldly concept of how I was supposed to live and to be. But if I was to be this person that he assured me in this mirror, if I was to be her and embody who she really is, then I had to pour as much word as I could because the word of God shapes your faith. It shapes your thoughts, and so it matters what you’re putting on the inside of you because that’s what’s going to come out of your mouth.
The word of God says, out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth will speak. I had to be careful about what I was allowing in, what I was taking. And so in my prayer room, I just wanted it to be really calm, and so I painted this beautiful, furtive mauve color. Then I had this deep accent wall. I love the scent of Luna, that’s just my sense. So if anybody’s out there and you smell Luna, you know exactly what I’m talking about. It is a really amazing common scent. I just can’t describe it. It’s just really common and inviting.
Somebody here recommended that I listened to Julie True for worship. Oh, my goodness, it was a game changer. So I like to listen to her when I’m journaling, and that’s pretty much where I met God. I met him at that moment. Or not necessarily met him, but it was just like a renewal of being in his presence,, and allowing him to do work on the inside of me. And it felt so good because I had been asking him. So be careful in your prayers. I’ve been asking to show me who I am. Show me why you created me. Show me what you meant by Psalm 1:39 when you talked about the books that were written before I was even thought of. So sometimes, I’m just sitting there quietly. Sometimes, I’ll be just listening, or journaling, or writing what I heard. Other mornings if I’m commanding my morning, I’m up there with Cindy Trimm going in slaying dragons before the sun comes up. It’s just dependent on what God was doing that day. But even in all that, I was still me. Quiet, calm, but confident. The inner smile kind of confidence, and that’s when the shape really came alive.
God started showing me how all of it worked together. My spiritual gifts, my heart, my passions, my abilities, my talents, the skills, everything the Lord poured on the inside of me. My personality, my temperament, my experiences, good, bad or indifferent. He showed me my dominion, how to walk it out. So when people tried to shame me, the Lord was shaping me. Even the things I didn’t want to look at, he was using them to make me who I am. And that D for dominion, that one was different. It’s like learning to walk in high heels when you are flats kind of girl. It feels uncomfortable at first, but it lifts you. That’s what dominion does. It elevates you.
***If your heart’s been heavy, if you’ve been searching for clarity or peace, I invite you to pause. Encounter Coaching is a one on one space where you can lay it all before Jesus and let him speak. Every encounter is different, but the outcome is always the same. Freedom, healing, and truth. Take the time. Give yourself this moment with the Father. The link is in the show notes.
Now let’s sit down together for a second. Imagine we’re at Olive Garden. We got our salad, our bread sticks, maybe a little Alfredo on the side. It’s just me and you sitting across from each other, and I’m looking at you dead in your eyes saying, do not let it take you as long as it took me. I am just wanting you to realize that I walked out so many things so you could take the shortcut. Pay attention to the people God is moving out of your life, and pay attention to the one he’s adding now. Heaven is very strategic. God is a God of assignments. Angels don’t just show up just to decorate the atmosphere. They show up to help you fulfill your purpose. You partner with the Holy Spirit. You partner with heaven. You are not in this alone. I used to joke to myself like, girl, you are late for work. One of my good friends says that all the time. Girl, you are late for work. And God was saying, you’re not late, daughter. I plan your arrival. And I’m telling you right now, that’s a word for you too. You are not late. You are not too late. You have not missed a thing. God already saw this moment before time began so don’t just listen to this podcast and say, oh, girl, that’s nice for her. No, ma’am. No, ma’am.
What is your next step? What is the one thing God’s been whispering to you? Is it to write something now? To get up earlier, to clear off a space and make it your prayer corner? To reach out to a certain person? Or maybe it’s to stop delaying what he already told you? Whatever it is, take that step. You’ve been located. And if you’re still not sure, ask him. He’s not hiding from you. He’s not far off. Talk to him like a father, a loving father. He’s cool like that. He loves you. He’s been waiting for you, and he’s already assigned help on the way.
One of the things I love to pray is asking for him to release my destiny helpers. And you know what? He’s not going to release destiny helpers if you’re not ready. He’s not going to release your destiny helpers if you’re going to sit there, play, watch Netflix and just sit on the couch, get off from work and just chill and just do your regular, normal routine. What’s the point? There’s no need for him to send you the help that you think you want, because you’re not going to do anything with it, so make sure you show up for yourself. And not just for you. Everyone has an assignment. There’s a group of people that you are assigned to, and they will not move until they hear your voice, until you start stepping into your assignment. And it’s a journey. It’s not a destination. It is an actual journey.
Let me pray for you. Lord, I thank you for the daughter listening to me right now. Thank you for her Mirror Moment. Thank you that you see her, that you hear her. You hear her cries late in the midnight hour and no one else is watching. You know all the things that have been on her heart, things that she’s ashamed to even repeat, but you are a faithful God. You are faithful. And just to meet her exactly where she is, I declare that 1 Samuel 10 becomes her testimony, that the Spirit of the Lord will come upon her, and she will become a different person. Every lie of the enemy, every delay, every thought that says I’m too late, I’ve done too much wrong, I’m too old, I cancel it right now, in Jesus name, Lord, release her destiny helpers from the north, the south, the east and west, from every continent of the earth. Let her see herself through your eyes. Let her shape come alive, her gifts, her heart, her abilities, her personality, her experiences, and give her dominion to walk it out, in Jesus name I pray, amen.
Now, if this message hits your heart, I want you to reach out to me. If you have a story of your own that you would like to share, or would like to come and be interviewed on my podcast, send an email at stories@theidentitymidwife.com. Again, that is stories@theidentitymidwife.com. Or if you just want to say hello, reach out to hello@theidentitymidwife.com and just say, I’m next, because you are. You’ve been located.
Thank you for listening to this podcast and this episode. I look forward to talking to you on the next episode.
Before you go, take one more breath. The same God who shaped you still sees you. Every scar, every tear, every wind, nothing about your story is wasted. Today, speak to your heart, share with another woman who needs a reminder that she’s not alone. And when you’re ready to go deeper, everything you need is waiting for you in the show notes. Until next time. I’m Kishea Boyd, The Identity Midwife. And daughter, you’ve been located.