“Everybody loves to talk about the butterfly, but they skip the part that actually matters. The metamorphosis process is not cute. It’s not quick, and is definitely not comfortable.”
—Kishea Boyd
Some seasons feel quiet on the outside while everything inside us shakes loose. We carry questions about identity, purpose, and why transformation can feel so heavy. These moments ask us to pause long enough to notice what God is forming beneath the surface.
Kishea shares how her own hidden season became a turning point. Her walk through loss, shifting relationships, prophetic mentorship, and deep inner work shaped the identity midwife she is today and clarified her call to help women rise into who heaven already knows they are.
Press play and step into a conversation that names the stretching, honors the cocoon, and reminds us that becoming is a holy work.
In this episode we cover:
• The four prophetic stages of butterfly transformation
• Why hidden seasons feel lonely but carry necessary rebuilding
• How God dissolves false identity and rewrites truth
• What the waiting room reveals about calling and timing
• Kishea’s story of grief, healing, and spiritual reformation
• The power of prophetic covering and community
• A clarion call for women ready to step out of hiding
Episode Highlights:
01:14 From Brokenness to Butterflies
03:02 The Butterfly Blueprint— The Egg Phase
05:31 The Caterpillar Phase
06:38 The Chrysalis Phase
08:20 The Butterfly Emerges
11:10 How Pain Led to Purpose
14:43 Final Challenge: Respond, Don’t Wait
Resources:
- Coaching Service: https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services
Quotes:
04:15 “Everybody loves to talk about the butterfly, but they skip the part that actually matters. The metamorphosis process is not cute. It’s not quick, and is definitely not comfortable.” —Kishea Boyd
04:47 “An egg is tiny. It’s fragile, it’s overlooked. Nobody applauds an egg. Nobody celebrates an egg. It doesn’t look like anything special. But inside that egg is everything it would ever become.” —Kishea Boyd
05:55 “A caterpillar’s only job is to eat. It consumes and consumes because it’s preparing for something it doesn’t even understand…This is the stage where God is feeding you truth. You’re being stretched.” —Kishea Boyd
08:12 “Nobody celebrates cocoons. Cocoons don’t look impressive, but this is where transformation happens.” —Kishea Boyd
09:10 “A butterfly’s first moments are shaky. It’s new, it’s delicate. But once those wings strengthen, she never goes back to crawling. You will never go back to crawling.” —Kishea Boyd
14:43 “If God is nudging you, don’t wait. If you wait, life will distract you. Fear will talk you out of it.” —Kishea Boyd
Kishea Boyd is a woman whose journey began not with triumph, but with a search—for identity, purpose, and the heart of God in every season. After serving over 20 years in the U.S. Coast Guard, where she honed resilience and leadership, she found her true strength not in uniform, but in faith. Rededicating her life to Christ in 1999 marked a turning point, leading her into ministry, mentorship, and a deeper understanding of who she was called to be. Through the joys of family life with her husband, Quinton, and their son, Kameron, and through the challenges that shaped her, Kishea has learned that God’s love never lets go. Today, she lives to help others rediscover identity, healing, and purpose through Him.
Transcipt:
Hey, sis, I see you. The strong one, the faithful one. The woman who keeps showing up for everyone else while quietly wondering if anyone still sees her. You can breathe now. You’re safe here.
I’m Kishea Boyd, The Identity Midwife. This podcast was created to help you rediscover who you are right in the middle of real life. Here, we talk about faith, healing, identity, and the gentle work of becoming. You don’t have to fix a thing, just lean in. You’ve been located.
Kishea Boyd: Hey daughter, welcome back to another episode of The Identity Midwife Podcast. I’m so glad you’re here. If you’ve been rocking with me through episodes 1 through 5, then you already know this, God is doing something in you, and he’s doing something in me. And somehow, by His grace, He braided our stories together on purpose.
Now, in the last episode, we talked about the Waiting Room, that prophetic vision God showed me where the waiting room was actually empty. But I knew deep inside, he was saying that there were women sitting waiting, not because they were delayed, but because no one was standing at the door calling them forth. And the Lord made it so clear to me, daughter, you are the one who’s supposed to call them. And today, we’re stepping into the hidden season, the stretching season, the cocoon, the transformation, the different person moment.
Now, this one is tender, this one is personal. This one is emotional, and this one right here might just be your episode. But before we go all the way in, go ahead and like, subscribe, and share this podcast if it’s been blessing you. And daughter, leave me a comment. Say located, or that’s me, or I hear you, or God is talking to me. Just to let me know that I’m not out here talking to myself talking in the wind. Your engagement helps me a lot. It encourages me, because this is my very first time ever doing a podcast. It’s my first time stepping out into faith. So is there anyone out there who is hearing me that resonates? Please leave a review. Please let me know how it is encouraging you, and what you are getting out of the podcast so that I know to keep continuing to make more content, and this helps to also build a community God is creating around us.
All right now, let’s get into it. One of the deepest scriptures that anchors my life is 1 Samuel 10:6, “You will become a completely different person.” Oh, my goodness. When I tell you, God did that to me. He stripped me down, rebuilt me, rewired me, re-identified me. And to the woman I am today looks nothing like the woman I used to be. But that did not happen overnight. It didn’t happen because someone laid hands on me. It didn’t happen in one good church service. It happened through process, through hiddenness, through loneliness, through grief, healing, identity, work, through sitting with God, through him revealing who I really am, and that’s where the butterfly comes in.
If we start talking about the full butterfly metamorphosis, let me break this butterfly thing all the way down so you truly understand the weight of what God was doing in me, and what he’s about to do in you. Because listen, everybody loves to talk about the butterfly, but they skip the part that actually matters. The metamorphosis process is not cute. It’s not quick, and is definitely not comfortable. A butterfly goes through four stages, and every single one of them is prophetic.
Stage number one, the egg identity you don’t even know you have. This is the beginning, the unseen beginning. Now, an egg is tiny. It’s fragile, it’s overlooked. Nobody applauds an egg. Nobody celebrates an egg. It doesn’t look like anything special. But inside that egg is everything it would ever become. That’s how God created you. Before you ever took your first breath, your identity, who you really are, was already written. Psalm 139 says, “All your days were written before one of them came to be inside that quote, unquote egg season.” You don’t see yourself clearly. Yet people don’t recognize you. You don’t even recognize you, but heaven does.
In the second part, the caterpillar is hungry, growing and uncomfortable. This stage right here, this is when you’re out here moving, stretching, trying to figure out life, trying to make sense of why you feel so different, so out of place. A caterpillar’s only job is to eat. It consumes and consumes because it’s prepared for something it doesn’t even understand. That was me reading a ton of books, learning identity, being mentored, sitting with God, trying to heal, not knowing all that consuming was preparation. This is the stage where God is feeding you truth. You’re being stretched. Your old coping mechanisms don’t work anymore. Relationships are shifting. Your appetite is changing, and you don’t even know why. That’s the caterpillar phase.
Now, the chrysalis, the hidden holy work no one sees, this is the third part of this. This is the part women don’t understand. This is the hidden season, the cocoon. What you call the waiting room in Episode 5. The caterpillar doesn’t just rest inside the cocoon. It disintegrates. It literally liquefies. Its old form is completely broken down. God does the same thing with us. He lets the false identity melt. He lets the old belief system break apart. The lies you carry since childhood dissolve the wounds, the abandonment, the rejection, he begins to deal with it all. And guess what? This stage could take months, depending on the species. The chrysalis stage lasts anywhere from two weeks to several months. And some butterflies over winter for almost 6 months inside that tight, dark place in the hidden place, you’re not inactive. You’re being reformed. This is the most sacred stage, because you feel forgotten. But God is working the hardest. You look still, but heaven is rearranging everything. You feel quiet, but identity is being rewoven. It’s dark, it’s lonely. Nobody celebrates cocoons. Cocoons don’t look impressive, but this is where transformation happens.
Now on this fourth stage, the butterfly becomes the woman God saw all along. And then when the time is right, when the work is complete, when identity is settled, the butterfly emerges. But even then, watch this, the butterfly is not immediately ready to fly. It has to push itself out of a tight place, pump blood into its wings, let them dry, strengthen them, adjust to new eyesight, learn to balance, and then take flight. You see the fight in that? Do you see the process? A butterfly’s first moments are shaky. It’s new, it’s delicate. But once those wings strengthen, oh, yeah, she never goes back to crawling. You will never go back to crawling. And that is exactly what God did in me, and exactly what he’s about to do in you.
***If your heart’s been heavy, if you’ve been searching for clarity or peace, I invite you to pause. Encounter Coaching is a one on one space where you can lay it all before Jesus and let him speak. Every encounter is different, but the outcome is always the same. Freedom, healing, and truth. Take the time. Give yourself this moment with the Father. The link is in the show notes.
2 Corinthians 5:17 says :If anyone is in Christ, she is a new creation. Not refurbished, not patched up, not slightly edited, new, completely different, unrecognizable to who you used to be.” Just like Samuel told Saul, you will be a different person. And you can read that in 1 Samuel, 10:6. It blew my mind when I told you, scripture is not just to be pretty words on a paper. It’s alive. It is powerful. And when you read it, the pages jump off, and the words do something on the inside of you. I know when I read the scripture for the first time, I’m like a different person. A different person. Man, that was just amazing to me.
So let me tell you something else. I didn’t become the identity midwife because it sounded cute. I became this because God had to process me through it. I walked through grief. I walked through losing my brother. I walked through losing friendships. I walked through loneliness. Seasons where family talked about me like they knew my heart better than I did. Seasons where friendships shifted and God hid me. Seasons where I had to learn to forgive, get rid of offense, heal old wounds, sit still, and let God Father me. He led me into prophetic communities. He led me into encounter coaching. He set me up with people who pulled things out of me I didn’t even know I carried, so I want to give a shout out here for my amazing Bishop. Bishop Hans Hess, his amazing woman. Pastor Dana Hess. I honor them. I honor them. Your prophetic eyes saw me when I couldn’t see myself. You covered me with honor. You prayed for me through the seasons. You invited me into spaces by seeing what God put on my life that mattered. It still matters.
God surrounded me with prophetic people who poured into me until something in me woke up, something shifted, strengthened, started to rise. And eventually, He gave me my identity, the favorite daughter, the cassia fragrance, the identity midwife. A woman who reroutes his daughters back to the heart of the Father, not because somebody’s holding me that, but because God Himself whispered it to me. And my spirit said, first, it’s like, that’s me. Then it’s like, that’s me. Now, here we go. I need you to hear this part with your heart, not just your ears. Catch it in the spirit. Daughter, I am calling you forth. I am calling you out of the waiting room. I am calling you out of hiding. I am calling you out of the old version of yourself. I am calling you into the woman heaven already knows you are. If you are crystal, if you are joy, if your pain sounds like theirs, if you are hungry but lost, if you are gifted but hidden, if you are called but scared, this is your clarion call. You have been around this mountain long enough. It is time for you to move. That is Deuteronomy 1:6.
If this episode hit you anywhere, if something stirred on the inside of you, if something broke open, if you felt seen, if you felt located, daughter, I need you to do something. One, I need you to like this episode. Subscribe to the podcast. Share it with another woman. Comment located. Email me at hello@theidentitymidwife.com. I’m looking for women to interview, women ready for transformation, women who are ready to be the first 12 in the Locate Program, women who are tired of hiding and ready to walk in identity.
Now, if God is nudging you, don’t wait. If you wait, life will distract you. Fear will talk you out of it, and you’ll still be in the same place six months from now. So come forth, reach out, you’re not alone. I’m right here walking with you. Thank you for listening to Episode 6. This one was sacred for me, and I pray it unlocked something sacred in you. And daughter, you have been located. I’ll see you in the next episode
Before you go, take one more breath. The same God who shaped you still sees you. Every scar, every tear, every wind, nothing about your story is wasted. Today, speak to your heart, share with another woman who needs a reminder that she’s not alone. And when you’re ready to go deeper, everything you need is waiting for you in the show notes. Until next time. I’m Kishea Boyd, The Identity Midwife. And daughter, you’ve been located.